Have you ever received or given a kiss from or to someone? But were those lips just slathered in honey? How did it feel? I would have ran away from that person or cleaned their lips myself. Honey is delicious, but there is such a thing as too much.
The Bible says “Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” Proverbs 16:24. These are words like “I love you”, “You are amazing”, “Great idea”, “Thank you”, etc. These types of words in our society today is very needed. All you hear when you turn on the television is hate. I believe that to show others who Jesus is we have to speak these kind words. Nobody will follow Jesus if all they hear from his followers is hate.
Kind words are like honey, but what happens when there’s too much of it? When you eat too much honey you get stomach cramps, diarrhea, and just other nasty stuff. What happens when there are too many kind words?
“A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin.” (Proverbs 26:28) Flattery, too much honey, ends in ruins. The person receiving the flattery never learns. They always think and believe that everything that they do is correct because that they trust to correct and be honest with them won’t do it. The person that’s giving the flattery does it for a selfish purpose most of the time for one of two reasons (if not both). Either they are fearful or they want something.
The person flattering could be scared of losing the relationship or they are scared of how the person may react. They would rather pretend like it’s all okay and never confront to avoid uncomfortable situations. The person flattering could want something that you have and they can’t get to on their own. This is usually very true with leaders. Whether leaders in a job or in a church, there’s always going to be someone that laughs at all your jokes, that agrees with everything you say, and will be with you as long as you have what they need.
Beware of this kind of person! Whatever their reasons are, you don’t want to take advice or encouragement from them. In Psalm 5:9, David describes his enemies as untruthful, destructive, deathly, and as flatterers. A person that flatters never speaks truth and at the end of the day, whether it was their intention or not, they kill. They kill your purpose, your relationships, your spiritual and even physical life.
When you don’t have a friend that is honest and only seeks to build you up, your growth will stunted. You can’t grow if all you hear is applauds when you don’t deserve it. If a plant is thirsty and all it gets is sunlight, it won’t grow. Kind words in excess are detrimental for your spiritual growth. Honey in excess is detrimental for your physical growth.
Ask God every day to bring people that will provide kind words, truth, and honesty. Someone that WITH LOVE will correct you and help you get back on track. I can’t emphasis enough how important it is for leaders to pray this on a daily basis. Keep a watchful eyes on those you call friends and even family.
Jesus said “Not everyone who calls out to me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter.” (Matthew 7:21) Even Jesus knew that there are going to be people that will says things that sound good, but their hearts are distant from Him. If you can’t tell who that person is, just give it time. The truth will come out because everything in darkness He brings to life.
I’m not saying reject flatterers. That would be the opposite of what Jesus taught. I’m saying embrace them, love them, but that doesn’t mean you should listen to their words. It sounds good I know, but not everything that sounds good is good. Let’s pray that God gives us the wisdom and the love to show them Jesus.
Thank you so much for making relationships an important part of my spiritual life. Thank you for those that you have surrounded me with. Thank you for those that have left. I pray that you can show me who I should listen to and who I shouldn’t. Reveal to me the people that will lead me to destruction, but show me how to love them in spite of it. You loved me and I will love them as much. Thank you for opening my eyes. Thank you for always taking care of me.